Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Etiquette Lesson #3

K...I have a secret to share.

I shouldn't say anything, I told them I wouldn't tell anyone, but I'm going to tell you guys anyway, but you have to PROMISE not to tell anybody else.



I HATE when people say that to me. no really...I DO!

Don't TELL me if you don't want me to tell anybody else...and DON'T be hypocritical by telling ME and then telling ME not to tell someone else!

Because then I have some random weight put on my puny shoulders and JUST because you told me NOT to tell someone...I'm itching to TELL someone!

So here is etiquette lesson #3.

At least I think we are on number 3.

Only say, "I'm not suppose to tell anyone" ONLY if you actually want that person to TELL someone.

You got it?

It's kinda upside down and sideways...but once you grasp on to this form of etiquette your life will be forever less dramafide.

It took me a while to latch on to this concept...

So it's only natural that when YOU are approached with these words, "I'm not suppose to tell, so don't tell anyone else"...that translates into, "Please go to the nearest TV station and announce my secret to the world for everyone to hear."

Your. Welcome.

It's only natural that I share my wisdom.

Thanks Anonymous who wrote: "When someone tells you a secret that THEY weren't suppose to share anyway, and then asks you not to tell anyone...should you listen, should you ask them not to tell you...what is the Social Etiquette when it comes to that?"

So what do YOU guys think? I mean...I think I pretty much ACED that test, but I'm curious to know how YOU would handle the situation?

P.S. This post is DRIPPING with sarcasm...but I shouldn't have to say that if I was any good at writing would I? lol!

I'm also dishing about a disagreement with MountainSport Man and I at The Real World Venus vs. Mars and it involves a toilet seat...are you surprised? Didn't think so! :)




Kritta22 said...

See this is a toughie...

I love a good piece of gossip!

But if it's way juicy...I keep it to myself and let people see me smirk.

It's great watching people think that I don't know but I do know.

I'm one to keep secret on most secrets UNLESS it's just dumb. Then the whole world knows within ten minutes, tops.

Ann On and On... said...

That is funny, I always get that...humm- light bulb going off feeling when someone says...Don 't tell- wondering why they are telling me to begin with. Thanks for the lesson.

♥georgie♥ said...

okay I just told someone something that i wasnt asked to not tell but then i asked the person I told to not tell...how does that work?

Annette Lyon said...

This is basically how I handled the news of my first pregnancy. We were going out of town for a few days, and I wanted all my friends to know but didn't have time to tell them all. So I told the biggest blabbermouth of them all and let her do the work. :)

M said...

This is tough. I'm usually where the gossip stops. That doesn't mean I don't LUV to hear some good juicy gossip, I'm just not much on repeating it.

I'm loving all your blogs, I'll definitely be back!

Thanks so much for visiting on my SITS day!

Heidi said...

I usually don't tell. I feel too guilty when I do. But I love knowing it. So folks, come tell me... I promise not to tell. hahaha. Love your blog.

Mother Goose said...

i hate when people do that to me too. BUT when they do, I HAVE TO HAVE TO KNOW!!! and if they don't tell then I get mad, because why say anything in the first place.

However, when someone does tell me something that shouldn't have been said, I ALWAYS ALWAYS take note of WHOM not to tell my own secrets too.
BUT I AM A PERSON Who once someone tells something good, juicy or other, I NEVER EVER BETRAY confidences because I know the STING of one's betrayal.

roy/elisabeth dean said...

ummmmmmm.......I guess I'm having a FIBLAG here!

I seem to be the person everyone comes to when they need to "unload" secrets. My office is like a confessional. I never repeat them though.

Now, if they're telling something that someone else told them not to tell, I question why THEY'RE telling it.

That's it for me....
Have a Wonderful Wednesday~

Homer and Queen said...

Everyone unloads on me too...it is a big burden to carry! If you want everyone to know don't tell me cause I don't share it (sorry)! Maybe we should do a post secret with everyone elses secrets to get them off our shoulders!

Kristina P. said...

Well, since I actually do belong to an etiquette board, since I'm so classy, I can tell you the actual social etiquette answer. It's not acceptable to tell anyone, excpet maybe your spouse. But the spouse threads always get heated.

Basically, it's not your secret to tell, and they have enough trust in you to tell someone, you should keep their confidence.

That's why I suggest sending in an anoynmous post card to Post Secret, rather than telling me.

T said...

I'm going to go all prudish on this one because when someone prefaces something with "I'm not supposed to tell but..." I usually cut them off and say "Then maybe I don't need to know"...

HOWEVER - when someone tells me their OWN secret and asks for it to be kept in confidence - I hold onto it... I love having a secret :)

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

You are all a bunhc of LIARS :)--I can't believe you don't agree with me?

What the What?

This is why I will never be a GREAT writer...because I can't even convey my OWN sarcasm very well...


Raise your hands...how many of you thought I was serious?

And SURE guys...the secrets safe with you...until you ask someone else to PROMISE not to say anything??? lol!

Kristina P. said...

I have to admit, I wasn't sure if you were being serious or not, but I thought probably not, and now I feel like an idiot, since I love me some sarcasm.

Because some people totally think that this is what you should do!!

And secretly, I do too, but I have to keep up appearances, since I'm an etiquette queen and all.

Blogging Mama Andrea said...

Okay, I thought you were serious but now you're not but you are.

Color me confused.

Anyway that's NOT what I wanted to say anyway. Thanks to your intro of the song Lady Gaga Dance Love or whatever it was, we had to buy it and shake our groovy things all over the house tonight. My dd, help that girl, I could see a career her mama would not be proud of!

Any more music you can pass on? Me likes.

The Crash Test Dummy said...

OMGOSH, all these years I've been taking that literally. I am so bad at decoding the social etiquette code.

Love sitting here watching your amazing photos go by. You are so tamn good.

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Kristin P. You are one of my FAVORITE bloggers...and by far an excellent sarcastic writer!!! I'm the idiot if I didn't get that across!!!

Blogging Mama-

I know...so are the rest of you...confused, I'm sorry I blotched this post...that's what I get to trying to be funny at midnight!!!

Crash--YEA! You get me...YOU REALLY REALLY DO!!!

H.K. said...

I was pretty sure you were being sarcastic, until I read the comments. And then I thought, am I missing something here?

Anyway, glad that your sarcasm humor is still intact! :0)

Anjeny said...

Hey, isn't that usually how rumor starts? Seriously, if you want to spread a rumor or gossip, go to the town's gossip and tell her that or something like, "I probably shouldn't be telling you this but....", nothing makes that rumors and gossip faster than telling someone else's secret and then tell them not to tell anyone about it.

Shelle, see if I ever tell you any of my secrets ever again.................................................................
ahahahah, gotcha!! I'm still miffed at you for all the cat scratches I got from you over a book that someone else walked away with...LOL.

I love this post...very funny and soo full of ahem..lol. Oh yeah, don't tell her this but Crash is on a mission to poke everybody's eyes out ever since her heart has melted from stone cold to COLD STONE...(wink wink).

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

H.K.--Yes totally sarcastic...but I'm not surprised people thought i was serious, I come off and somewhat of a dork! And apparently my writing skill is lacking! lol!

Anjeny--Thank you...that is the idea... :) The scratching was because you pulled my hair Anjeny...I don't even know the winner, but if I would've I would've scratched her also...if that makes you feel any better! :)

And I always stay out of poking reach when it comes to Crash you just never know when her cold stone heart will turn STONE COLD! lol!

Homer and Queen said...

Shelle, I knew you were being sarcastic! If your weren't, you wouldn't have told the whole world, right? I do get the "don't tell anyone" from alot of people!

wendy said...

I prefer to tell the person --hey don't tell me as I am not good at keeping secrets --DON'T TELL ME (so do you have any good secrets to tell..ha ha)

Barbaloot said...

Hey! My comment never posted! And it was funny!....Or I thought so. Lame.

It won't be funny anymore---it'll be trite. Just know I'm angry.

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