Monday, June 16, 2008

Mom's Style...cool or not cool? Hmmm...

Let me just get this off my chest real fast! I have been blog surfing, like I do, and I have come upon a few blogs where they have talked about "Attracting people to your blog" (and I totally want to so feel free to link to me anytime so i can feed of your popularness).

One of the biggest things that each one of them has said is don't have a regular MOMMY BLOG...which means...don't just talk about what you did for the day, how many diapers you changed, who you made lunch for, or where you happen to take your kids that day.

Okay, well I'm screwed and I understand NOW why a lot of you don't stay on to read my blog and become obsessed with it EVERYDAY...

I have a normal MOMMY BLOG because that is my life and what is consumed with it...my kids. Luckily I don't have to change diapers right now in this period of my life. But I have typed many posts about what I have done that day or who I have cooked for. So sorry guys...I'll try to expand my knowledge and delve back into my books on see what interesting things I can push at ya...

Well, secretly...I like telling you about my day...this blog is for me to say whatever I want right? so if that means I tell you how many times I yelled at my little darlings then that means that is what I write about...a lot of this blog is for journaling so that I make my mark in history...ya know, in case any one cares, and I miraculously become famous after I die. There's always that chance... :)

But I also DO REALLY LIKE typing to an audience and I SO love hearing your comments and have laughed hysterically when visiting your blogs, which initiates me to write something more amusing or interesting for you so that you continue to comment and I can continue to be entertained...it's a "circle of blogs" so to speak...

Anyhow...


I had my nephews last week and I was sitting at the park just looking around and started noticing the difference between Mom's. It's like you could tell which Mom's had little or no sleep and dressed like it. The Mom's that had again little or no sleep but still dressed for the day. There were mom's who you could tell had been to the gym at 6:00am that morning and probably jogged for an hour before showering and getting ready and taking her kids to the park. (Because they have a super hot body and are tugging around 4 or 5 kids) Then there was the Mom that woke up 10 minutes before haphazardly getting her kids ready, or they got themselves ready, and quickly left for the park to meet a bunch of friends. They were different shapes and sizes and I chuckled to myself to see which category I was in that day...that's right, little or no sleep and dressed like it!

I found myself looking around and my eye being attracted to those Mom's that a lot of single men tenderly refer to as MILF's. If you don't know what that is...email me, I'll fill you in, but since this is a family-friendly website...(My friends daughters read my website because I'm like the COOL friend.ha)...I'm not going to spell it out for you here right now. They basically are Beautiful women that have incredibly bodies and dress them to match...plus they have kids and do cool mom things.

Then this led my brain back a couple of weeks ago when my friend Brooke said, "Shelle, Mom's just aren't cool...like when you become a Mom you instantly are put into a not cool category. Especially when you are trying to pick out something to wear. I just went to my sister's graduation and was looking at her and her friends and thought to myself, I'm just trying to hard to be cool...with a baby on my hip...I was so totally NOT cool. You should write about it on your blog and see what other people think." ( I'm summarizing here!)

I was like..."why don't YOU write about it on your blog...that would be interesting to see what other Mom's or Dad's think!"

She said,
"No I'd rather read what you have to say...I think you should do it!"

Fine Brooke I'll do it, but just because I am interested in what others say too...and because I think the world of you, and I have to give props to you because YOU are one of the stylish coolest mom's I know...but I know you'll just roll your eyes at that since you don't realize it about yourself.

I use to think that if you had a really skinny body to adorn all the really cool new and latest styles that it didn't matter what age you were you could pull it off. I was dead wrong.

I have a co-worker that I see at work who is always wearing styles that are just a tad to young for her. She is a beautiful woman, but she just doesn't know how to dress her body, she has a great body...one I envy now and then when I am weak...But she shops at all the trendy teenage stores and it looks more trashy then classy. You understand where I am coming from? You know what I mean right? ( don't worry the lady that I work with barely knows my name...wouldn't realize it was her if I brought it up in conversation...plus it's my opinion, so take a chill pill)

I totally think you can be a classy dresser as a Mom...but you HAVE to make that leap from the teen section of the store to the Woman section of the store. No you may not find those hotter than hot shorts or really slinky tank top to go with it...or the tighter than tight spandex with the weird looking prego shirt...or you might, depending on where you shop...but I think there is just something about a mature lady or woman or MOM who dresses herself in something classy yet stylish. They have designers out there that design just for the WOMAN's BODY! We should take advantage of those styles...

for us bigger women...THANK GOODNESS for layers being in style. They are definitely classy and allow you to wear more stylish tops.

Jeans that fit right are a big one...I have scored hundreds of hours looking for the JUST RIGHT JEANS...because I don't have a gazillion dollars to find designer jeans that will instantly make me look like Jessica Alba, it takes me a while to find jeans that I can turn around in a mirror and say, "Wow, my butt doesn't look THAT bad in these". But again I am no expert because for the longest time I walked around with jeans I thought made my legs look good...which they did, but they also were a little too tight and gave me a camel toe...which I didn't know until I saw a picture of myself...NO ONE ever told me...and I wore those jeans A LOT, I mean A LOT!

I do however believe that a MOM can try TOO HARD. It's obvious to. Like when they aren't facing you and you look at them and they are in the clothes that my friends teenager buys and you think they look cute because all you see is their body(yea the skinny young looking woman)...then they turn around and you are like ICK because their eyes and wrinkles, or botox and plastic surgery, and the one-to-many-times-in-the-tanning-bed, give them a tell tale sign of their age, and then you instantly think...they should wear something a little more their age and they would be a knock out because they really are beautiful.

So style wise...I am still not an expert and most times I try to hard...it just looks worse on me because I have the extra back fat and tummy that came along with my two little rugrats...mostly because I was lazy and didn't work out when I was pregnant...but either way, I really have NO idea what I am talking about..this is purely and opinion of what I see when I am out and about with my kids.

I feel like I'm cool even though I DON'T dress it because of what I did this last week with my nephews. I went out to Osh Kosh and bought them those muscle shirts from the picture above...

These button-down shirts...
These T-Shirts...

And then took them out to get their pictures taken so that I could get some practice doing my new obsession. Plus we managed to hit 2 splash pad parks and 2 different swimming pools, with a couple of picnics and a toy store excursion...in their eyes I WAS the epitome of cool...

and in my life at this time I'll take what I can get that is what counts for me, because I'll never be COOL in societies eyes, because BROOKE I think you're right, you definitely get your cool card taken away by other single adults,...unless of course you are rich and famous and then it doesn't really matter you seem to be cool no matter what you do...

okay, I got my cool card taken away, but if I'm going to be honest...most of the mom's I know ARE COOL and they DRESS COOL, and honestly Brooke, you fit into that category. I'm not just saying that...you really are COOL and you still have a knockout body after two kids and you still dress WAY cute...you are so cute and gorgeous that I wanted to hate you before I met you, of course you are too dang nice so I couldn't

Since I'll never be rich and famous...I'm just going to hang around other Mom's that dress like me, dream about what I could do with my body if I hadn't let myself go during my two pregnancies, and smile when my husband says, "You're MILF material to me" because I know he's just saying that to try and get lucky! lol!

So what are your thoughts? What makes a Mom stylish when they dress or COOL? Do you think some Mom's try too hard? Do you not care at all and wish I would just stop typing...you know...another thing those blogs said NOT to do...is type REALLY long posts...ummmm...screwed there also aren't I?

10 comments:

Natalie said...

I was just shopping at Kohl's (after my swimsuit shopping failure) and I bought some cute stuff but on the way out the door I passed the Junior section and there was so much I liked I had to stop and peruse! I did wonder if I looked ridiculous shopping there but to be honest, that stuff doesn't actually fit...(it's sized much smaller). However, in the end I say wear what makes you happy. If you feel good in it, that will show. And if it's too bad, you can end up on What Not To Wear! Woo hoo!

Shelle said...

Totally agree with you Natalie...and you say it much more eloquently!

Jenni said...

I think there definitely needs to be a balance.

I don't want to look like a 65 year old kindergarten teacher, but I'm not 21 any longer. I usually do shop in the juniors section because I am really small and most Misses or Women's hangs on me. But I absolutely refuse to wear clothes that are too trendy or have writing across the butt!

And I agree with the overly tanned and too much make-up look. That alone can make a more "mature" woman just look trashy.

Merrianne & Spencer said...

I am still laughing at the fact that you wrote "Camel Toe".....ha hahaaaa!!!

anyway....I think people should wear what they feel good in..as long as it is the right size for them. :)

Staci said...

I seriously love reading your blog it makes me laugh. Ya i would totally have you take the pics of Braxton I will let ya know for sure what day but im thinking the
4th of july would be the soonest.

D&BC said...

I'm also laughing at the camel toe!! haha! That's awesome!!! But you are far to nice!! I think you are so pretty and I was just thinking when I saw you in church yesterday how cute you and your dress were!!! Your a much cooler mom than I am by far, you do such fun stuff with your kids!!
Very sad but my "cool card" was taken away long long ago....maybe I will get it back some day.....but probably not!! I do notice the moms/ladies that are older and wear make-up upon make-up and the tanning wrinkles, dressing in the teen clothes, and I agree with you, they would look so much better if they wore clothes their own age! Doesn't mean they have to dress like a grandma!!
I want to go to the park again with you sometime, I cannot believe how busy I have been the last month but really one of these days it will happen and we will get together!!!

JanMary said...

Great post (great LONG post - don't apologise).

I aim to look like I have made an effort, but not TOO much effort. 3 kids, and now 40, there is no way I will ever be cool (and I never really was). I aim for flattering jeans, and tops which flatter in the right places and cover up the bits that should not see the light of day. Then i try to add some trendier accessories - and get most comments about my jewellery ("fashion" jewellery - not the expensive stuff).

My key look for the season usually comes together around a particular necklace!

I did a post for BooMama fashion fiesta a while back with pics from my wardrobe - I can send you the link.

Great post - I know I already said that, but worth repeating. I love the photos of the boys and their great new clothes. It is so much more fun buying kids their clothes than shopping for me sometimes!

However, I have a particular mum friend, and she knows I think this - who buys her daughter the most beautiful clothes, but only ever wears mum jeans and unflattering white tshits and a navy fleece. We are trying to get her to buy something else - but to date she is resisting our efforts! Do you know anyone like that?

Natalie Sue said...

It's a good thing I'm not trying to attract anyone to my blog because it IS a total mommy blog! Ha! That is so funny.
But your blog? It's SO creative and fun to read, even if people can also tell that you are a MOM! So I think that can't be all the way true, because I think it's actually part of the attraction to your blog. Especially since it looks like you are such a cool Mom!
About the turning into a mom? Sheesh.. it's so true. I thought maybe I could push that off for at least a couple years, but I hit it strong. I used to be obsessed with "What Not To Wear" so that I could try and get some tips. First I've got to lose all this baby weight though! (Um, including the baby! He needs to come out too!!!)

MomMega said...

Okay, I just stumbled on your blog and I love it! I love that it is a Mommy Blog and I am going to add you to my Blog Roll ASAP.

As far as dressing "cool" goes...man, I gave up on trying to be someone I'm not a loooong time ago! I have pretty much dressed the same way since I was in high school (many, many years ago) and have a few staples: Jeans, Converse, Cardigans. If I like the way a shirt or sweater fits, I'll buy it in several colors. My hubby wishes I dressed like a 17 year old...oh well!

Anonymous said...

Just to make things clear, I am the coolest mom ever!! Go ahead just ask me!! Though I do wish I had one of those hot bodies, not to be a cool mom, just to be an amazing woman!! Anyhow, I want copies of those picures!! send them to walgreens and I will go pick them up!!
lol your sis

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