Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Why I'm NOT a Wedding Photographer...

I was going to tell you ALL about my LA trip and post some pictures and talk about how my sisters thought I needed a make-over...but then, I didn't feel like it...I feel like discussing something else!

It feels SPRINGY here where I live.

The weathers warm and taunts you all day in a cubicle to "Come Out and Play"...

I love this time of year as much as I dread it.

Because along with the great weather and feeling of euphoria and "let's play hokey" devil on your shoulder you get...

WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENTS!!!

UGH!

People ask me all the time why I am not a WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER...

"Shelle, you would make SO MUCH MORE MONEY if you shot weddings!"

In which I answer, "too time consuming right now for me and my little family and money isn't why I take pictures".

Although that is an HONEST excuse...it is not the ONLY excuse.

So I'm going to get this OUT in the open to all my closest friends...

I don't like weddings, nor do I like receptions.

There I said it.

I don't like them. I don't like waiting in line to congratulate the ONE person I know in the line just so that I can smile and be nice to total strangers who tell me who they are related to or WHY they are in the line.

The food is sometimes okay...but most of the time stinks, plus, I don't want to be THAT fat girl who keeps going up to the refreshment table to fill her plate.

And...I'm not one for PDA...I don't know why...but it makes me feel uncomfortable. And it's like welcoming the PRESIDENT of PDA when you go to a wedding...of course, it's to be expected of the Bride and Groom...but for some reason it's like a sneeze...the cloud nine, kissing face, huggy euphoric feeling the bride and groom give off to each other catches on and before you know it the whole lot of people are groping and getting a LITTLE too comfortable, especially if they are single and on the hunt.

I'm one of the ones who smugly smiles at the happy couple and thinks to myself, "Enjoy it now...because this HAPPY, GO LUCKY, NEVER GOING TO CHANGE feeling...changes."...now don't get me wrong, I don't want to sound like a pessimist...the WAY it changes either for good or bad is completely up to the couple...


(Okay I love the way they kiss...like it's important for them to get it just right...I hope MountainSport Man and I kiss that good!)

But you know what I mean...hard times come...but when you are in that stage of engagement and newly married, you believe that NOTHING will change...that everything will always feel and always be the way it is now...and you feel invincible and unbreakable.



I was the WORST culprut of this romanticizing of life. And it was WONDERFUL...

But back to wedding announcements.

I also don't want to do wedding photography because I can't have a DO-OVER and the only way I can go into a photo shoot confident is KNOWING a can offer a DO-OVER if the pictures don't turn out right.

It's the second child syndrome in me.



I DO however LOVE to be an onlooker of a stolen kiss or a impromptu embrace. To me the innocence of it is endearing. So I LOVE to take Engagement pictures or Bridals or married couples...I just don't like to show up at the wedding and reception, which can be a problem when you are a WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER.



So when I get a wedding announcement I cringe and go through a battle in my brain to see how desperate I am to fly somewhere just to get out of going...but I always end up going, because it matters to the people I love.

Okay I admit I may be a TINY bit jealous of the that euphoric feeling I was talking about before...some of the BEST years of my life where when I was engaged and newly married...figuring it all out. Having my little body, fake nails, and fake tan. Plus every wedding announcement I have gotten in the last couple of weeks is of couples who SHOULDN'T be together by the LAW that only ONE person is allowed to be beautiful...hopefully the bride-to-be...but not BOTH. Honestly...

So I LOVE this spring feeling...I'm in LOVE with the weather...and I'm sure I'll give in to the DEVIL on my shoulder.

And MAYBE if I ever TRIED being a WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER I would love it...but I'm a coward! There I said it!

But for the LOVE...it's just not humanly possible to attend 4 wedding receptions in ONE weekend is it? Can people REALLY ask that of me?

Love,

Shelle

24 comments:

The Wixom Zoo said...

I have to agree about wedding receptions. I hate them. I didn't even like MINE because I didn't know half of the people there and all I could think about was that I'd paid for a ton of food and decorations for people who didn't even know me!
Whew, that was kind of a rant. Sorry.
I super love your pictures though! You're a really talented lady...anytime you need a little vacation feel free to come to cow country for a little photo shoot!

Lara said...

I don't shoot weddings because of the time commitment, either. But my real fear is that if I mess up, it's lost forever. No calling them back for a reshoot. Not that that's ever happened, but it's a huge worry. What IF?

And, I am very jealous of your springy weather. It's freezing here today and windy as heck. I look forward to my St. George Saturdays muchly, just to have a little sunshine in my soul.

Sandi said...

Crap! I feel the same way about weddings and receptions and pda. The thing is though, I have a daughter who is possibly getting married in your neck of the woods in December and I was thinking that I had a great lead on a wedding photographer!
maybe you can give me some names

springrose said...

Just so you know if you ever decided to come to cow country Wixom Zoo and I live less than 1/2 mile apart! We are even in the same ward!! So you could do 2 photo shoots in one weekend!! FUN!! Well for us but maybe not you, don't know.... But I don't know why she calls it cow country! There really aren't that many cows around here. Just on the few dairy's spotted around.
Anyway, the only wedding reception I have been to that I loved was my Hubbys cousins. It felt like a party. And they had GREAT FOOD!! My own reception was to much stress for me! I need to figure out how to make it not like that for my kids when they tie the knot. But I totally agree with you on the reception thing! We get invited to a lot each year, what is it about haveing a Hubby in the bishopbric that automatically means we get invited to and are expected to attend everything?!! Seriously people, we have 5 children!!

Kristina P. said...

I have another blog friend that I met, who is an amazing photographer, and she said she doesn't shoot weddings because of the pressure. You ruin a shot, you can never get it back.

American in Norway said...

For the record, I think you would be an AMAZING wedding photographer!
I'd trust you with my big day...

Barbaloot said...

I'm not the biggest reception fan these days myself...but I don't think it's for the same reasons:)

I do however, really want to hear about your LA trip and the make--over your sisters forced. Please:)

Annette Lyon said...

I would think wedding photography would be a nightmare for the simple reason that everyone there is on high emotional alert. I can see the bride's mother hovering over your shoulder, making sure you took this picture and that one and then trying to get a decent shot of the entire family of 149 people, and . . . yeah. Not so fun.

shannon said...

I totally get why you wouldn't want to do the wedding photos...WAY too much pressure!

The engagement photos that you took were great! You seemed to capture their true emotions...

As far as going to weddings, I DO enjoy going to Jewish wedding receptions!!! They are lavish and the food is fantastic! They spare no expense...Not like the familiar
cookies and punch in the cultural hall nonsense! Shalom!

T said...

I guess I'll have to keep that in mind... and I was SO going to call you when I got married again... ummm... oops, nope - better keep the man I've got I guess :)

Really though - was nearly ecstatic when the most recent announcement came and it's on my son's birthday... sorry - just can't make it... (hey, I got her a REALLY awesome bridal shower gift - it's not because I'm cheap!!! well, not JUST because...)

Alyson (New England Living) said...

I hate weddings too! I wasn't even interested when it was my own. I was just feeling like "let's get this day over, so we can be married already!"

clan of the cave hair said...

oh, you should talk to my sister about shooting weddings. She loves to shoot weddings. (or at least I think she does) but what I want to know is...are all 4 of the receptions for the same couple? they are, aren't they? lol
My sister and I have threatened to write an LDS etiquette book titled "3 receptions is never OK"

Susan said...

Holy crap - I SOOOOOOOOO want to send you the link to my husband's ex-wife's recent engagement photo splash in our local paper. Can you say TACKY? Um, no, I'd rather have you describe it to me - you know, from a professinal's point of view. I don't think it would be trackable if I left it in your comment box. I don't think they've even found my blog yet. I'm going to google the paper now... Be back soon.

Susan said...

OK.... Here it is. Can you tell I already uncorked the red wine for this evening? Do you like the bright yellow shirt? Nice contrast? Second wedding for both of them. And she publicly had an affair with her married 61 year old boss - while she was still married. Class act. OK, enough defamation of character on my part. http://www.legacy.com/PressConnects/Celebrations.asp?Page=Announcement&PersonID=121293770

Kate said...

i really enjoy doing the engagement shoots, and have become more and more annoyed with weddings. Mostly because everyone has a camera and thinks just because you are the photographer, that means you can take their puny little point and shoot along with you as you frantically try to capture the whole day without missing any special moment.

i end up with a pocket of other peoples cameras and half-assed shots!
I have 2 weddings this year, and after that, I am going to work on portraits and engagements. So much fun!

This Mom said...

Be flattered. You are great at capturing that intimate stolen moment. One day there will be that couple you just want to give that gift to. Until do what you love.

Aubrey said...

OHMYGOODNESS!!!!
I can't believe I missed your 30th!

Happy Birthday to You, Happy Birthday to You, Happy Birthday LOVELY Shelle...Happy Birthday to you!

Oh, and I went and voted #4!

The Bayou Belles and Their Beau said...

These are so good! I wish you lived near me so that you could come take some family photos for us. Dang it!

April said...

The only time I had fun at a wedding was when I went to a greek wedding and they were all drunk. That was a fun wedding! (No I wasn't drunk, just about everyone else was.)

BTW, was is up with this pretty boy syndrome going on???? SCARY!!!

Blogging Mama Andrea said...

There should be a law about the pretty couple thing, I completely agree. I also hate trying to pick an item off a registry. It's either the $150 place setting for one that you are pretty sure you are NOT that good a friend to buy them or the $20 towel set that makes you look cheap.
It's a good thing all our friends are either already married or the single ones have no intention of getting married.
So much easier that way!

ukyankoz said...

I agree, you do take amazing pre-wedding shots; I do love those photos! And I love that euphoric feeling of being engaged and newly married and how nothing will ever change...although yeah, I do give in to the devil on my shoulder and get a bit smug knowing what's coming for the couple! :)
My big regret from our wedding was not keeping our photographer for the reception, tho - we went the route of the disposable cameras on the tables, and only came away with a handful of good photos. I also didn't designate a family photog either, so we're woefully short of photos at our reception.
Anyway...yeah. I agree!

binks said...

I agree with the whole overblown wedding extravaganza. Our wedding was perfect. Small (40) and intimate with only family and our closest friends. The whole B&B experience for the weekend was so laid back and casual. People are still talking about it 4 years later.

Katie L said...

I was so excited to feature on your page...although I want to clarify that your picture of Mark and me wasnt our engagement ones!!!! haha!!
The weather down here IS crazy good and let me know if you ever want to play hookey...ill totally do it with you!!!!
....'call the cops....' HAHAHAHAAH

Amanda said...

I should have let you take some of me and Nate. Oh well, maybe next time.

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